“Why won’t you talk?” “Stop rushing me.”
Most misfires aren’t a lack of love—they’re a tempo mismatch. In Love Type Test, the Lead/Follow axis is where that gap shows up most.
Leaders: want to resolve it now
Strengths
- Fast decisions that move the relationship forward
- Clear, direct requests
Pitfalls
- Reading silence as indifference
- Pushing harder when emotions run high
Followers: need time to think
Strengths
- Good at receiving feelings and listening
- Calm, wide-angle judgment
Pitfalls
- Think a lot, say too little, and misunderstandings build
- Overhold, then suddenly go cold
3 steps to sync
- Name the emotion first, then the topic “I’m a little anxious, but I want to hear your view.”
- Offer a buffer Leaders can ask: “Do you need 30 minutes, or should we talk tonight?”
- Use a simple template Followers can keep it short: “Feeling + need + proposal.” “I feel uneasy because plans aren’t clear. I want to set a time tonight.”
Repair checklist after a clash
- Leaders: slow down and say, “I’ll wait until you can organize your thoughts.”
- Followers: reply clearly, even if it’s short: “I hear you. Let’s talk tonight.”
- Together: a 20-minute daily “talk window” works better than endless chasing. Start the Love Type Test now!
When the pace is visible, conflict becomes cooperation. Once you understand the Lead/Follow difference, the same truth lands more gently.